"You can't pour water from an empty pitcher."
Now I can't tell you how many times I've said this to friends and acquaintances--women who are taking care of everyone and everything without a care for their own needs and well-being. And I know it's very true. No one can give and give and give to others without replenishing their own wellspring. However, I seem to have forgotten to apply this saying to myself lately. We, as women, have been well trained to be kind, caring, and loving. And yet, I know that as well as I apply these traits to my interactions with others, I've been horribly neglectful in applying all of these lovely and loving traits to myself.
It's been 6 weeks since I started another fibromyalgia flare-up and, of course, it was triggered because I "gave" too much of myself without paying attention to the signals my body was giving me to slow down and stop working. I am doing better, but I'm in that awkward stage where I feel better enough to be out of bed and off the couch, but not well enough to get much of any "meaningful" work accomplished. So deadlines are looming and I have SO many things to do. However, instead of being compassionate to myself, that "inner critic" has been saying the most rude and nasty things to me--things I would never DREAM of saying or thinking about anybody else. Perhaps this may sound familiar.
But I have a PLAN. My plan is to start setting aside, maybe even scheduling it on my calendar, an hour a day for self-care during which I'll exercise (mostly tai chi), meditate and/or journal, and perhaps read. Thinking about it, I should do it first thing after breakfast--otherwise my self-care hour may fall through the cracks as always--the first victim of my habit of caring for others and putting their priorities ahead of me and my own priorities.
I'll keep you posted!
Heaps of Hugs,